Tips for Dating Successfully
In order to date successfully (in other words, "land the right man"), there's some things you have to do:
1) Set boundaries. Determine what you will and will not tolerate. Make these boundaries clear. For instance, "My ex did such-and-such, and I just won't put up with it anymore."
2) Keep your boundaries. If he crosses one, don't just let it slide. Call him on it. If he apologizes and promises to not do it again, you might want to give him another chance. If he argues with you and insists that what he did was fine and that you were overreacting/being overly sensitive, etc., he is showing signs of an abuser and it's time to bail.
3) Expect respect. He should open doors for you, pay for the meals and treat you in a respectful manner. He should care about your feelings and respect your opinions even when he disagrees with you. If he can't respect you, he's out the door.
4) Be willing to walk away. Don't feel so desperate for love that you cling to someone who is unhealthy for you. There are other men out there who will appreciate and love you. Be willing to walk away from an abusive or unhealthy relationship.
5) Don't rehash old dramas you had with your ex. For instance, don't start fights with the new boyfriend to get back at your ex. You're just setting yourself up for another abusive relationship. If you find yourself doing this, get some counseling and don't date for a while.
6) Don't have sex before marriage. I may sound old-fashioned, but I know from personal experience that when you have sex with a man outside of marriage, he loses respect for you. Most often, he gets this idea that he "owns" you and starts to get controlling. He doesn't have the right to your body until he is married to you.
7) Be nice to the nice guy. Don't treat a guy badly because some guy treated you badly, especially if he's being nice to you. Be appreciate of someone who is nice to you. Be nice to him. Do favors for him. Let him know that you appreciate him and that you care. That way, you're not continuing the cycle of abuse.
1) Set boundaries. Determine what you will and will not tolerate. Make these boundaries clear. For instance, "My ex did such-and-such, and I just won't put up with it anymore."
2) Keep your boundaries. If he crosses one, don't just let it slide. Call him on it. If he apologizes and promises to not do it again, you might want to give him another chance. If he argues with you and insists that what he did was fine and that you were overreacting/being overly sensitive, etc., he is showing signs of an abuser and it's time to bail.
3) Expect respect. He should open doors for you, pay for the meals and treat you in a respectful manner. He should care about your feelings and respect your opinions even when he disagrees with you. If he can't respect you, he's out the door.
4) Be willing to walk away. Don't feel so desperate for love that you cling to someone who is unhealthy for you. There are other men out there who will appreciate and love you. Be willing to walk away from an abusive or unhealthy relationship.
5) Don't rehash old dramas you had with your ex. For instance, don't start fights with the new boyfriend to get back at your ex. You're just setting yourself up for another abusive relationship. If you find yourself doing this, get some counseling and don't date for a while.
6) Don't have sex before marriage. I may sound old-fashioned, but I know from personal experience that when you have sex with a man outside of marriage, he loses respect for you. Most often, he gets this idea that he "owns" you and starts to get controlling. He doesn't have the right to your body until he is married to you.
7) Be nice to the nice guy. Don't treat a guy badly because some guy treated you badly, especially if he's being nice to you. Be appreciate of someone who is nice to you. Be nice to him. Do favors for him. Let him know that you appreciate him and that you care. That way, you're not continuing the cycle of abuse.
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