I just finished reading Myles Munroe’s 1991 printing of Single, Married, Separated & Life After Divorce. I must say I was quite impressed. And although the version I read was almost two decades old, it still seemed relevant to life in our culture today.

First, the author explains what being single really is. Being single doesn’t mean to be “alone”; it means “to be separate, unique, and whole.” When you use that definition, then everyone should be single, even married folks. When you are married, you are part of a team, but you are also a separate, unique person. He urges people not to lose their identities in their spouses, an idea with which I wholeheartedly agree. Munroe suggests that one can’t be happily married until one is happily single, that is content with your own state of being. He challenges our culture’s notion that one has to be married in order to be fulfilled.

What I really like is Munroe’s compassion for divorcees. He acknowledges that although God did not intend for us to divorce, it does happen and the Bible has made provisions for it. He urges his readers to search the scriptures for principles regarding divorce and figure out which ones apply to a specific situation. The fact is that there are several passages regarding divorce.

Going back to Munroe, he is sympathetic to people who have been through the trauma of divorce. He seems to have a good understanding of the hurts people experience in a divorce, and the aftermath that follows. He offers a very simple set of steps for healing. I’m actually going to use these steps to help me recover from several past traumas, including a bad job situation I had two years ago.

I recommend this book for anyone who is single, married or divorced - which means just about everyone! There is something in here for every relationship status, and I’d definitely recommend it for anyone who is recovering from a divorce or other failed relationship.